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Fart Humour And Teenage Boys (Or Why Men Have A Mental Illness)
It’s almost interesting how quickly five or six teenage boys can stink up a room. On the weekend we had a birthday sleepover for our youngest, a sugar-fuelled night of X-box killing and toilet humor....
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I Work Out, I Eat Right, I Do Yoga… So Why Am I Still Depressed?
Have you ever had an emotional or mental breakdown? I have. At the time I was doing martial arts several times a week, was involved in a spiritual community, was learning and growing, but none of that...
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Living with An Emotionally Closed-off Spouse
I’m not just the counselor, I’m also a client. I have been told that I have come a long way in the past years. I have difficulty writing that, it feels arrogant to a good Canadian. The truth is, I had...
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Do I Like It Sick?
Many spouses will stay in a relationship that is sick and twisted, but why? It is a truly terrifying story – a young girl grows up in a sick home and is repeatedly sexually abused by a relative or...
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An Open Letter To The Men Who Date My Clients
My name is Scott and I’m a clinical therapist. I, or someone like me, has probably counseled a handful of women you may have thought about dating. For various reasons most of my clients are...
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You Don’t Know How Intimidating You Are
The first time someone told me I didn’t believe them. It was not possible, I wasn’t even angry. I have heard it since a few times, less the older I grow. Apparently I can be fairly intense and even...
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You’re Yelling Again
I don’t yell. I’m not saying this to brag, I’m fairly certain it was a dysfunctional coping mechanism. Maybe it was because I had relatives that yelled and I repress such expressions as a response...
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The Emotional Tank
Years ago I heard a talk about our four gauges. Let me explain. The speaker spoke of the various internal gauges that he had noticed in his life. He had a spiritual gauge and as a religious person he...
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Sex, Junk, And Menopause
I like talking about sex. After you have spent hours talking about depression, stress, marriage break-ups and anxiety it’s nice to talk about the clitoris. There is also the fact that I grew up in a...
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Emotion
“Emotion is taking me over” The Bee Gees/Destiny’s Child “If I seem insensitive to what you’re going through, Captain, understand – it’s the way I am.” Commander Spock Anyone old enough to have seen...
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Passing On What We Didn’t Learn
My father was an orphan. He grew up with a brother, little supervision, and almost no “life lessons” from a parental figure. His relatives were racist, religious bigots. My mother is one of three...
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More On Invasive Thoughts
Great article from Psychology Today on invasive thoughts. Here’s a taste: Your job review is scheduled in two days and, in passing, your boss says, “Well, we’ll certainly have a lot to talk about.” You...
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Emotional Vampires
Know any emotional vampires? You know the type – they suck the emotional life right out of you. They are the victims, the needy; the person with a hole in their heart you can… More
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Why Men Lie To You
Women ask me, why do men lie so often? The answer may surprise you. In a man’s world, lying to get out of domestic chores, calm down a lover, or get an extra slice of… More
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How To Argue With Your Emotional Teenager
I have, for some time now, been working with high risk and aberrant behaviour youth as a youth and family counselor. Few things in this world are harder to deal with than a teenager with… More
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Weekend Musings – There Are Victims And Then There Are Victims
“A benchmark of emotional management and responsibility is the realization that our past can no longer be blamed for our actions in the present.“ Doc Childe and Howard Martin Every day I work with...
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Capture the Flag
Have you ever played paintball? It’s this disgusting sport where you attempt to mow other people down in the name of recreation. It promotes values like picking on the weak, killing, and violence on...
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Fart Humour And Teenage Boys (Or Why Men Have A Mental Illness)
It’s almost interesting how quickly five or six teenage boys can stink up a room. On the weekend we had a birthday sleepover for our youngest, a sugar-fuelled night of X-box killing and toilet humor.…...
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I Work Out, I Eat Right, I Do Yoga… So Why Am I Still Depressed?
Have you ever had an emotional or mental breakdown? I have. At the time I was doing martial arts several times a week, was involved in a spiritual community, was learning and growing, but none… More
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